tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4818003785720571672.post2140219470231693443..comments2023-03-26T12:49:06.515-07:00Comments on Love and Hope for Lauren: I'm So Glad This Past Week Is OverPamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10972041572780087629noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4818003785720571672.post-39524569006043173192014-02-25T17:36:22.981-08:002014-02-25T17:36:22.981-08:00Pam,
I’ve mentioned before, but I have a difficult...Pam,<br />I’ve mentioned before, but I have a difficult time commenting from my iPhone. I read your posts and think of you often and feel bad when I can’t write a few lines. Just want you to know.<br />I saw a quote in a heart that pretty much sums everything up. It said “I will always miss my child. Never ask if I’m over it. Even a little.”<br />I don’t have answers, but I care and feel so sad about Lauren. I believe (hope) you will be together again. I’m not a religious person, but I have faith there is a bigger purpose than our day to day existence. <br />You have been through a war and grief as you know can be totally overwhelming. You are a strong person, but losing a child is the toughest. You are doing remarkable considering everything you and your family have been through. You are trying the best you can so don’t be too hard on yourself. Life is forever changed and you are doing the best you can to put your life back together. You are a determined person and did everything you could to save Lauren’s life. We are similar in this way which is why accepting the things we cannot change is most difficult. <br />Pam, you are such a great person and I know this without ever meeting you face to face! Somehow with time and perseverance you will get through this. You will continue to be the steadfast mom and role model your other children know and love. They also know because you have taught them that it’s ok to be sad, because it’s a normal part of being human and helping each other through the hard times is what you do for people you love. Take care.<br />Hugs, Cathy & Heather<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4818003785720571672.post-1716551499145953362014-02-25T03:51:42.569-08:002014-02-25T03:51:42.569-08:00Pam as hard as it was losing my Mom to CC I can...Pam as hard as it was losing my Mom to CC I can't fathom losing one of my children. April 3rd will be 5 years since losing Mom. I'm still not "over" it and never will be. I miss her so much and would give anything to just have 5 minutes to talk to her. One of the oddly comforting things someone told me was that GRIEF IS NOT AN EVENT IT'S A JOURNEY AND A PROCESS. It won't just vanish. You will find your pathway to your new "normal" but it's a journey only you can take. There is no timeframe for grieving and no two people will grieve in the same way or timeframe. I believe it's the hardest thing we ever do. After 5 years it's a little better but I can still be unhinged and reduced to tears by being in a store and smelling my Mom's perfume on someone walking by. <br /><br />Please know we are here for you and pray for you. Wo was a beautiful, spirited woman and I have a feeling I know where she got a lot of that from....(YOU!).<br /><br />You are dealing with so many losses and it's NORMAL to be grieving ALL OF THEM! <br /><br />Be kind to yourself and know your CC family is always here (somebody is ALWAYS online!!)<br /><br />I'm sending hugs, prayers and understanding. Please keep writing. You will never know how many people are helped and validated by reading this blog...<br /><br />Love and Hugs, <br /><br />Pam Rice (Cherbourg on the CC site)Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16597030581765489395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4818003785720571672.post-6025748032224778812014-02-24T17:44:41.499-08:002014-02-24T17:44:41.499-08:00We thank you for sharing your heart - - that in it...We thank you for sharing your heart - - that in itself is part of the healing process. Your great loss is still so new and you are not given a time-frame to heal. When the pain seems unbearable, think of the words of the hymn "Take It To The Lord in Prayer" which tells of times when we are "weak, and heavy laden"-- WE don't have the strength to go through this alone - - and we are not alone - - only the LORD carry us through these times. Over and over again, we have seen great sorrow turn into great peace.<br />We pray for this peace to embrace your hearts. Much Love, Rod & JaniceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4818003785720571672.post-41169900420616210602014-02-24T14:26:12.399-08:002014-02-24T14:26:12.399-08:00Oh Pam.....I even still think about Lauren often.....Oh Pam.....I even still think about Lauren often....and I smile. I smile from all the great memories that you have shared and the awesome pictures of your family. Almost like I really know you all....but have never met you! It is easy for people to say...."just remember the good times...that is what Wo would want" BUT I tell my kids THAT is REALLY what I want them to do. I am/will be someday (unless there is a miracle) in the same boat as Wo. I want my kids to remember the good times and laugh about all the fun, stupid, happy, crazy moments we had. And from what I have witnessed through your blog, your family has just as great of memories. Don't let them get lost while you are grieving. I am coming to Ohio as soon as my daughter comes again...you wait and see!! I will see you and Lisa both with hugs and squeezes!! I give Mark a big pat on the back for stepping up to the plate...as you still have a family who needs you and Wo would definitely want you to be a happy person. Prayers and many hugs to you.....and this post makes my heart a little less heavy for you as I believe you are on your way up....up....UP! PattyPatty Corcoranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12944488193782207706noreply@blogger.com